Making Your Groom Part of Wedding Planning

When it comes to wedding planning, let's be honest - it's mostly about the bride. At least the planning part feels that way! But speaking candidly, most grooms want to be included in wedding planning. After all, they're the ones who got down on one knee and popped the question! But, in the whirlwind of wedding planning, sometimes grooms can feel left out.

Be sure to include your fiancé in wedding planning wherever possible.
While many grooms like to be included in wedding planning, the truth is that there are definitely some who prefer to leave the details to their brides. If so, no need to worry! But, if your fiancé is like many men, he'd like to be a part of the process too. These tips can help ensure you keep him in the loop and make important decisions together:

• Schedule important meetings. When your fiancé has important meetings at work, he typically adds them to his Outlook or iPhone schedule. Guess what - that's the same way to get him involved in important wedding planning meetings! Tell him about plans, then follow up by sending him a meeting request - you're almost guaranteed to have him there. If you're still nervous, send him a quick follow up text that morning.
• Ask him! Your groom realizes that, in many ways, this is your day. He may be concerned that he'd look selfish by asking to be included in the decision-making process. The best solution to this problem is to simply ask him. When you're looking into various aspects of your wedding, ask your fiancé what he thinks. Now the best time to do this might not be in the middle of the football game - be sure you have his attention first. But asking a quick question might be all it takes for your groom to feel comfortable enough to become more invested in the wedding planning process.
• Assign certain tasks. This one should be handled carefully - you don't want to look like a drillmaster! But, while your groom may want to be a part of the wedding planning process, he also might be a bit overwhelmed if you suddenly hit him with a flood of decisions that have to be made right now. Instead, consider taking one or two aspects of your wedding and "assigning" them to your groom. Let him take ownership of those tasks (asking for your input, of course), coordinate meetings and research options. If your groom isn't the best with details, you may want to send gentle reminders from time to time (especially since so many aspects of weddings are time sensitive), but really let him take ownership of those tasks. You might be surprised that he does a great job!

While it can be easy to get carried away with decision making during your wedding planning process, taking the time to include your groom can make it an even more special time leading up to the big day.

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