Friday, April 26, 2013

The Bride's Bill Of Rights?

Interesting to ponder, if left up to the devices of a diverse group of brides, what a Brides bill of rights would contain. We can certainly imagine some demands a Bride could contrive. The likely #1 position would be taken by a summary of the previous blog, BrideZilla the Myth, “My Day My Way!” Other topics surely to be top contenders would certainly revolve around bridesmaids dresses, families opinions of the wedding dress, themed weddings, wedding favors, who’s responsible for what, the list that would be generated could fill a wedding guest book.

Fortunately for all those in that immediate circle around the Bride this list of inalienable rights was not written by a Bride. While cultural, socioeconomic, geographical and periodic societal views on marriage may all be constantly evolving, in some instances regressing; there is common ground that all Brides would probably agree upon with reason and consideration for all those involved.

From the perspective of bridesmaids, groomsmen, parents of the bride & groom, siblings of the bride and everyone else who thinks that their opinion is so critical to the success of the big day, this Brides Bill of Rights may seem more alien than inalienable. Some may consider it more selfish than reasonable. Others will compare it to a demand list of a spoiled child. What they all need to consider doing, is with the most sincere honesty to themselves, imagine it were their wedding day. To be truly empathetic and understand that this one day should be the greatest most important day in a young woman’s life.

The list is simple, short, and flexible; molding to every Bride’s particular situation:

        The Bride's Bill of Rights

  1. The Bride’s final decision on a wedding dress will be applauded by all as the best choice for her. Constructive comments during the process should be made wisely and with sensitivity to the Bride.
  2. The Brides vision of her wedding day will be considered the plan for the day and every professional and family member involved will make every reasonable attempt to fulfill this dream
  3. The Bride’s option to give permission to every detail, make requests for out of the ordinary details, and personalize every detail specific to her own personality and character shall not be infringed upon in the attempt to “make as many people happy as possible”.
  4. The Bride shall have the understanding that all of her guests will be grateful to be invited to this day of sharing and love and will appreciate every accommodation that has been provided for them.
  5. The Brides opinion is the most important opinion, the second most important opinion is that of the Groom which is likely to be the same as the Bride.
  6. The Bride has the power of Veto and can only be overridden with a consensus of all parents and the Groom which if this were the case he would be referred to as the Fool!

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